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It’s still abuse if…

It’s still abuse if…

  • the incidents of domestic abuse seem minor when you compare them to what you have read about, seen on television or heard other women talk about. There isn’t a “better” or “worse” form of physical abuse.
  • the incidents of physical abuse have only occurred one or two times in the relationship. Studies indicate that if your partner has injured you once, it is likely they will continue to physically assault you.
  • the physical assaults stopped when you became passive and gave up your right to express yourself as you desire, to move about freely and see others, and to make decisions.
  • there has not been any physical violence. Many women are emotionally and verbally abused. This can be frightening and is often more confusing to try to understand.

 

Being in a healthy relationship means…

  • loving, respecting, and taking care of yourself and your partner.
  • respecting individuality, embracing differences, and allowing each other to be themselves.
  • doing things with friends and family and having activities independent of each other.
  • discussing things, allowing for differences of opinion, and compromising equally.
  • expressing and listening to each other’s feelings, needs, and desires.
  • trusting your partner.
  • listening to each other without judgment.
  • being honest with yourself and your partner.
  • taking responsibility for your actions and feelings.
  • respecting each other’s need and right for privacy.
  • practicing safe sex.
  • respecting sexual boundaries and physical space.
  • being able to say no to sex or anything you’re uncomfortable with.
  • resolving conflicts in a peaceful and nonviolent way.
  • sharing decisions about things affecting both partners.
  • having room for positive growth and learning more about each other.
     

Source: Breaking the Silence: a Handbook for Victims of Violence in Nebraska

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